When you say or do something that hurts me, it doesn’t change how I feel about you, it changes how I feel about me.
A sample conversation that may or may not occur between my head and my head on any given day:
Hmmm. That upset me.
Why the fuck are you upset? That shouldn’t hurt you.
You’re right . . . but I’m still upset.
Well, you deserve to be upset. People hurt you because you deserve to be hurt. You’re an asshole for even remotely putting the blame on the other person.
I need feedback, people. Is this an “everybody” thing? An “eating disordered” thing? Or is this just a “me” thing? Also, am I using “paradox” correctly? I feel like I am, but suddenly I have doubts . . .